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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with PP. if anyone would be kind enough to share schools it could save some of us [/quote]

It happens at all schools. [/quote]

Exactly. Every private school has counseled students out. Still, it’s relatively rare.

School administrators aren’t looking for bad PR and know that parents talk to each other. Counseling out usually is a last resort after trying in-school interventions and asking families to seek outside academic or behavioral help.[/quote]

Yes, but in the manner OP describes? No warning. No counseling. No discussion. When the admissions cycle is nearly over so the child has limited opportunity to apply out? Is that normal? Are the schools all so cold?
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OP said “In terms of the counseling out, it is that they are holding the contract and will come up with a plan.” So while this may be the first they’ve heard of it, it sounds like it’s the start of a discussion, not a one-and-done “your kid is out” meeting. [/quote]

Agree that this is probably start and that you should start looking elsewhere during next year's admission cycle. Is your child in a grade near the end of LS or MS where it may be an easier time to transition out? Also, take it as a sign that they are going to be watching your kid more closely and have less tolerance for even minor infractions. That happened to my kid and even though we weren't asked to leave decided that the pressure of having to be perfect was too much. [/quote]

Agree - except ours was for academic and somewhat unexpected.

School asked us to get testing done in May of last year, we did over the summer ($6K).  Report said child may be dyslexic, so the school set up a support plan.  Three months in and our child's reading has improved to basically grade level, but right after break, they asked for a meeting and suggested we look at other schools.  Definitely felt unexpected given testing and progress after short term intervention (school specialist said dyslexia would have been considered very mild and did not think we needed to pull our child from the school). In my mind, if they couldn’t support even mild needs they should have said so and not required us to pay for private testing. In the end we are actively looking for other schools -- while our school has a lot of pluses, I do not want to keep my child in a school that sees my child as a burden or broken. I have no issue with them being honest about what they are willing and not willing to do, but it could have been handled far better.

And sadly ours is not the only experience at this school - I am four families who experienced the same (did not leave) including one who has been alerted to a kindergarten students reading challenges and suggested the child was a burden, which is crazy b/c kids in kindergarten don't always know how to read right away. And four kids is a lot since class sizes are in the 16-20 range.

All that to say, I think this happens more than people realize.  I wish I had known enough to ask questions about the school's posture towards potential academic support but was definitely not on my list of questions in pre-K – probably would not sting as bad as it does if I had been prepared or may not have chosen the school.
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