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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I'm divorcing due to infidelity and I'm not getting a good settlement. The court doesn't GAF about infidelity. It's also astonishing to me that his lies get past the judge. It's sociopathic. His lawyer has said many many times "our offer to her is NOTHING". And that's what they intend to do. But I'm still happier than when I had to live with him. But let's dispel the myth of the good settlement. The other party has to be somewhat amenable to it and if they aren't then the lawyers get all the money. (He chose to litigate, I requested mediation. The lawyers are having a great time!)"

I find this sort of thing to be really confusing. What's the reason you think you should get anything other than the default, which is keeping what you brought to the marriage and didn't comingle, and half of the assets earned during the marriage? If you're happy with that, then just go with what a judge decides. The child support is pretty much going to follow a formula. There are guidelines they have to follow (unless you're in some wacky state like Virginia where judges get to run wild). If you're asking for alimony on top of that, what's the reason you need his help to support yourself if you're an adult of working age?

Also, he can only "litigate" if you're litigating. Just stop and let the judge make a decision. He has to disclose his financial docs, and so do you. The judge then decides. The only reason that things drag on when they're in front of a judge is if you aren't agreeing to the defaults/guidelines. [/quote]

Not that poster but she should get more because he broke their contract. There should be a penalty paid for that. [/quote]

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