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[quote=Anonymous]OP I posted already, but wanted to say a few more things. If you agreed to pay for SAT prep, give her the money for that, but make it clear that is it. You have debt. Set the boundaries clearly.

Your mom was cheap and gross to ask for her money back, but I would give it and make it clear you will not accept any more gifts since she expects payment and set the financial boundaries reminding her of your debt.

Also, brace yourself. I was taken advantage of by my family with favors and other things and could not rely on them at all. My husband was taken advantage of by his family financially. Once the boundaries are set, the fallout can be major. Be prepared to find out who they are-TAKERS. There may be drama, chaos, insults, guilt trips and manipulations. It helps to have a therapist to support you through this and through attempting to keep a relationship. They may never be able to stop being takers. In my case, it was one sided and once I stopped with my one side, they had no use for me. Please make sure you have support for when you find out it wasn't a relationship. It was more of a parasite type existence-they leech and when there is no more to leech it's done. Hopefully you will have better luck than we did.[/quote]

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