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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I opened this thread and at first thought I was going to be able to commiserate.  I have one kid who can be very tricky and spirals if given negative consequences.  It makes her double, triple down.  However she is very successful socially etc.  And can be reasonable.

With her this whole authoritarian approach many on this site recommend just really does not work.  She has to feel connected to us in order to de-escalate.  My best approach is to walk away and then re-engage in a concerned way.  What is going on.  Why are you talking to us like this.  Etc. People on DCUM would mock this approach and also what many suggest doesn’t work with some kids.  I have another kid who responds very standard.  Give the consequence, he stops.  The end.  Point is trust your own instincts and don’t let yourself be judged.

What you are describing seems way beyond this but I do want to strongly offer that I think a kid like this needs help not punishment.  Good luck OP.[/quote]

You are actually 100% describing the approach that parent therapists would recommend as one crucial set of skills. There are other skills as well, including the use do consequences, but what you describe and intuited is what you would be taught. Most people who post here about parenting have no understanding of how to parent anything but the most compliant (or scared) children. [/quote]

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