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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last year- my kid rejected ED. Deferred ED2.  Deferred at 2 of his top EA schools. Got into great schools in RD and ended up with 2 amazing final options- is thriving at one of those (ED2 deferral school). It’s a slog but stick with it![/quote]

My 2025 kid (my second of 3) never got the "amazing final options" last year and I know a number of other kids like this.  It was a slog to the end, a couple of less-than-ideal choices and they're now probably going to transfer.

SO it can also NOT work out despite having all the top grades, rigor, scores, extracurriculars, etc. 
Just keep this in mind.  Not to be a downer but be prepared for anything.  It's such a random process.

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I'm the parent of the kid who ended up with good options.  We literally had only "okay" (to him) options all the way until March 26.  And we as parents were continuing to boost the options our kid had by reassuring them they would do well wherever they landed and had a bright future ahead. Because it was true! He would have been happy and thrive at lots of different schools even if they weren't his top choices. We were of course thrilled that 2 of his deferrals turned into acceptances so he had the opportunity to choose, but all along we were pushing that ANY of the schools he applied to would be great and he'd do well.

Disappointment is part of life, but it doesn't make or break your life that vast majority of the time. It's how you recover from the disappointment that is important.  That is the message we pushed.  Our kid was no stranger to disappointment, and we didn't push the "dream school" narrative.  Life would go on no matter where he ended up.

And if the school your kid is at isn't a good fit, work on a transfer! Nothing wrong with that either.[/quote]

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