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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have no sense of connection with or obligation to anyone anymore. I think people are dead inside from all the violence we see every day, day in day out in the media, TV shows, tv ads, movies, etc. Plus a lot of adults now were raised in daycare where no one who took care of them loved them.[/quote]

I don't think this is it.

My sister is estranged from our parents and one of our brothers. I am low contact with everyone in the family. But both my sister and I have good marriages, kids, and strong connections within those families we have built. The truth is that there was a lot of dysfunction in our family growing up and our parents have mental health issues that make it hard to have healthy relationships with them. Also a major reason we choose to minimize contact with them is to protect our kids from some of the issues at play.

It has nothing to do with being "dead inside" due to violence in the media. I don't even consume violent media and I don't believe my sister does either. It has to do with coming from a long chain of families with substance abuse, domestic and child abuse, and mental illness, and wanting to be chain breakers. To set new patterns within our own marriages and with our kids, we have to distance ourselves from that chain.

So in our case, the family estrangement is in service to connection and obligation. Just to our kids and spouses instead of to our parents.[/quote]

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