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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s normal to feel that way. Maybe she was proud of you and knew you didn’t need it. Curious what the rest of her will says- does the rest go to Charity? [/quote]
No. $75k went to one cousin, the rest split equally between her six children. There are about 15 cousins, and we were each willed a “thing”, if we wanted it (someone got a gun, for example) other than the one cousin who got a the money. None of my cousins were close with grandma, many didn’t even speak to her. The cousin who got money was close, but not as close as me. [/quote]

Clearly she felt her relationship with that grandchild (your cousin) was more special than the one you had with her. You felt more for her than she did for you. It happens; [b]it happened with me and my mother - no matter what I did - my brother was always the favorite.  (He has a penis and she’s sexist).  My job in her eyes is to kill myself looking after everyone but to give all the credit to the men - just like she did.  [/b]Sad. And I’m changing the dynamics with my kids.  My advice is to let this be a learning lesson and don’t repeat her mistakes - that’s all you can control- your actions.[/quote]

Sorry, PP. That really sucks. [/quote]

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