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[quote=Anonymous]I have issues like this with two different children.  My oldest does not generally feel hunger cues and has very restricted eating (gags if she eats certain types of textures)—it’s not voluntary, she’d love to be able to eat more.  Just focus on getting calories into her eating what she likes (on the healthier side — like cheese and pasta is fine, even better if you can add an apples and some tomatos).  It’s okay if she eats the same stuff over and over and if it helps her or watch TV while she eats, that’s not the end of the world.  When you get to a better place, you can try moving into so of the Ardid type treatments.  Also note that for a lot of kids with anxiety, it manifests as stomach problems which can really impact stomach cues.  I really doubt it’s a traditional ED.  It’s more likely Arfod or anxiety induced stomach pains.  We avoided stimulants for this child because they make anxiety and the food issues worse but she was on a low level anti drepressant for several years.

My other kid is like this with getting really upset when I try to help him organize.  We hired a really nice executive function coach who meets with him via zoom and does all that stuff and he is a million times more willing to talk with her.  She is teaching him strategies to work on stuff himself.  Does he have the grades he should have, given him intelligence and the amount he works?  No.  But he’s still in school and still trying and making progress on those issues.  You have to have a certain level of acceptance yourself, and figure out how o make this not a personality clash between you. Maintaining your relationship with the your child is the most omportant part of all this.

Finally, I’m not in the “take the computer away stat” camp.  It depends.  Is she using it to engage with friends?  Are they nice friends?  One of my top prooorites is making sure my SN kids have friends and that they are decent people.  If she’s already tangential to a social group, limiting her connections with that group could result in her being shut out …. Which will be way works for her mental health and increase the likelohood that when she does go on like (and she will, even if you limit access), she will be engaging with harmful content.  When I limited my son’s phone access, he was using hils school Chromebook and finding awful content on line.  With his phone, he is sending silly memes to his friends, and they get together sometimes in the evening to blow off some steam playing joint video games.  I know the computer stuff is really really hard — I just don’t think the answers are as bright line as some people suggest.

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