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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s unconscious, but this is about establishing power in the relationship. No modern man would say to his wife “I’m the leader of this household,” but they communicate in this more subtle, non-verbal way.  
By framing the relationship in a way where she just does things, but he has to be asked to do normal things like clean the house, watch the kids, prepare food, or buy Christmas presents, he (likely unconsciously) asserts that he is the more powerful person in the relationship without actually having to say it.

That’s what you are resentful about, OP.  It isn’t the “mental load.”  It’s that he is treating you as “lesser than” he is.

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OP here. He definitely treats me as though I’m less than him in many ways. [/quote]

Pp here.  Yes.  That’s what I think the real issue is when women complain about mental load.  It’s a power dynamic.

As anyone who has lived with men and raised boys can tell you, the idea that men don’t care about food or presents is bogus.  
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