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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I fault any school that resorts to in-school suspension for a kindergartener. Shame on them. [/quote]
I'm sorry, OP!! I agree. This kid is 5 or 6..Two suspensions seems over the top to me, too.[/quote]

If the child is leaving the classroom and having tantrums, then the classroom is not the right space for her. She needs a different placement.

Remember, Teachers are not allowed to physically restrain a child or prevent a child from leaving the classroom. The Teacher can send an aide with the child or call the front office to let them know that the child left the office. The school then needs to find a place for the child and that might not be in the classroom which clearly overwhelmed the child enough that they left it.

That is why there needs to be a formal evaluation. The parents have a way to ask for that, they need to email the school and request an evaluation, that puts the school on the clock. The parents are aware that there are issues because they are already working with a therapist. They could have requested an evaluation before school started so that there was an IEP in place before kindergarten started, but they didn't.

Mom has said that she is being treated for a mental health condition and is aware that these things can be passed on. The child was in therapy for behaviors before K started. I have no clue why the parents did not start the IEP process early on or that they have not started them now. I don't think that the school can start the process without gathering enough data to do so, they have to have the parents consent or the data to back up evaluation without the parents consent. It sounds to me like that is what the school is doing. They are telling parents there are issues. They are documenting the issues. They are looking for an environment to de-escalate the problems when they happen, removing the child from the classroom.

The parents' response is to be upset that the child has been pulled from the class after eloping and meltdowns but has not called for a conference to discuss the issue or request an evaluation. That is on the parents. [/quote]

It is literally not on the parents to initiate the IEP process. It is supposed to be the school that does it proactively. Also, I have never understood why schools don’t put into place basic behavioral modification techniques as soon as a child’s behavior becomes disruptive. They are pretty simple but schools like to just ignore the solutions and seem to think that making alarmed calls to parents is going to solve the in-school issue. [/quote]

The school needs enough data points to initiate the conversation, and the parents need to be willing to attend. The school has been reaching out to the OP about issues, and the OPs response is to lament that the child is labeled as a problem child. The OP did not mention asking for a conference to discuss the issues or asking the school to meet to discuss having the child evaluated.

A different scenario but DS had speech issues. His K teacher did not approach us until the second month when she had a long list of examples. We talked with her and agreed that a meeting to discuss evaluation was needed. She started the process that day. But she needed more then one or two data points to justify starting the process and we agreed to the conversation.

All OP has told us is that there are regular calls and that the school has used ISS twice. The OP did not say "we asked for a meeting with the Teacher to discuss what is happening." or "We emailed asking for an evaluation." This is not all on the school. It is clear that the school is gathering data points but that the parents have not reached out to talk to the school.

We have no idea what the school might be trying in the classroom, they might be trying interventions. The OP doesn't know because they have not meet with the school to discuss what is happening. I don't think schools do a great job with IEPs and helping kids with SPED/ED issues. I think schools try hard to not give IEPs because of the expense. I think there are a lot of times that schools are hoping that parents don't pursue IEPs because of the expense. I also think that there are parents who willingly ignore issues at school and say the school needs to address what happens at school. I think there are parents who want the school to do far more then is reasonable. But I am not going to blame the school for not starting a process when the parents are barely responding to what the school is telling them. [/quote]

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