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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents moved to a nearby CCRC 18 months ago, and, I am the nearby family member. Spouses parents passed over a decade ago. My parents were, and are, terrific parents who raised me, and however many years I can help them, is a privilege. And, maybe[b] I will feel differently in a few years, but I hope not.[/b]

They are not the same as when they raised me (anxiety and memory loss are real and sucks), but I am not the same toddler, school girl, teen, young adult, etc. either

I wonder if the difference is that I had a terrific childhood, we have always had a good relationship, they have the funds to pay for the CCRC, [b]that they aren't nasty,[/b] or that it hasn't been very long yet?  Whatever the reason, I consider myself lucky after reading all the horrid situations here, and hope the relationship we have with our now young adult children remains as strong as the one I have with my parents.[/quote]

Be aware that you are in for a loooong journey and big surprise. Overseeing elders in CCRC community will eventually be a full time - time consuming job as time goes on and they move along to different levels of care. Who they are personality wise now will not be who they are near death (especially if they live a long time….90s). And if they develop “behaviors” (which they can the older they get) then look out! Also, CCRCs can change rapidly over time as they get bought out, partner with other companies, chance executive directors frequently and get bought up by private equity corps. Their focus is making $$$. Good luck to you!
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