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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he gets a weekend day each week, then you need to tell the evaluator that you will trade off holidays. The point isn’t the child having a magical holiday experience, it’s spending holidays with both parents/both sides of the child’s family.

She’s not talking about Memorial Day or Columbus Day, so cares about the religious/secular holidays your family celebrates - Christmas, new years, Thanksgiving (if there are other big ones add those too). So one year you get Thanksgiving, dad gets Xmas - the following year you switch.  [/quote]

OP: I posted about this. His family does not celebrate most holidays that we celebrate in the U.S., and his relatives either do not celebrate Christmas at all or in the case of his parents and unmarried sibling, they go on a tropical vacation together. I’m not keeping anyone away from his side of the family- they stay away from each other.

For anyone thinking about marriage: examine your partner’s family traditions and holiday interactions closely. Everyone celebrates things differently, but if your partner’s family doesn’t have interactions with friends or family or neighbors on the most special days of the year, or treats holidays as regular days, they’re not low-key or undemanding or somehow more evolved or sophisticated than people who celebrate. And your family isn’t over the top for doing even something little.

I willingly admit that I missed huge red flags in my DH’s family of origin that would have given me warnings about what I would face in the future had I heeded my instincts and not DH’s explanations.[/quote]

It doesn't matter what her dad celebrates. It matters that you look like a parent who cares that her child has a relationship with BOTH parents. And part of that relationship includes being with dad on holidays. Especially since most school breaks are around holidays (Christmas, thanksgiving, new years), so you need to be willing to have your daughter spend that time with her other parent. [/quote]

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