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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Emotional abuse and lack of help parenting when both spouses work full time.

It is the same reason in every divorce I know personally. [/quote]

what is emotional abuse?  and what is the difference between that and just difficult conversations?  
My (ex)husband throws around that term, when he is just a completely avoidant personality who gets easily panicked by serious, difficult conversations, like when the kids are having serious behavioral or disobedient problems that he'd prefer just to ignore.

I equate emotional abuse to verbally insulting, calling people names, saying you're stupid, worthless, fat, ugly, etc.
I've gotten the vibe from others that they equate emotional abuse to not showering them with positive affection on a daily basis or forgetting/ignoring household tasks.
Wide range here.

and how would "lack of help parenting" ever get better after getting a divorce and having a parent move out of the house? kids don't want an absent parent.  honestly, I've found the 20% my ex husband did is better than the 0% he does now.[/quote]

You defined verbal abuse which can be a component of emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse exists where there is a significant imbalance in power within the couple. When one party is modulating their behavior to avoid punishment from the other and is triangulating around someone else’s moods and doesn’t have autonomy to make decisions big and small and when reality is defined by only the power person. It’s not about not having your ass kissed.  [/quote]

is it a perceived or actual power imbalance? what kind of punishment is doled out?  
not making a decision- meaning does 1 person decide how every dollar is spent and every child decision is made?  
what automony is taken away?[/quote]

It’s like having to develop a 6th sense to figure out if DH is in a good mood or bad mood today. If good mood, how can you keep him in a good mood? If bad mood, God help you. And for the record, he’s in a bad mood most of the time. [/quote]

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