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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My surprise 4th is the best gift I’ve ever received. The BEST![/quote]

Odd response to a grieving OP because she cannot have a 4th 
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[quote=Anonymous]Isn’t op contemplating a 4th?[/quote]

Not exactly.  OP has already decided she wants the child. OP is contemplating moving on, or continue trying to persuade someone who does not want this child to re-consider.

[quote=Anonymous]I just reread the post. ]it seems like she’s looking to hear from people who had a 4th. Regardless, this is dcum…where you can just throw out your two cents or any reaction to a post. I stand by my btdt testimony.[/quote]

Based on your prior comment, I think your situations are different.

[quote=Anonymous]PS - accidents/surprises happen (especially as you age and cycles become erratic)[/quote]

But we should encourage avoiding accidents where one party does not want to parent a child. It's [i]possible[/i] they'll change their mind, after the baby arrives. But the risks are too high: this is a child. Possibly this is 2 children. Possibly this is a special needs child.

If one parent is not 100% certain, fully prepared for twins or SN, then practice family planning. [b]OPs partner is 50% of this and should be scheduling a vasectomy. [/b]

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Why do people feel like anyone else [b]should[/b] be pursuing permanent birth control?  I do not recall OP mentioning anywhere in her posts that her partner was contemplating a vasectomy.  This is a weird leap.[/quote]

If you really are a "clear NO" or "hard NO", you should be considering permanent birth control if you are engaging in sexual activity that can lead to an unwanted pregnancy. Why pursue permanent birth control? To prevent unwanted pregnancies leading to unwanted children. 
 
OP: "My partner is a clear NO"

"It's highly unlikely but possible I'll change my mind" is different, of course. OP can clarify that with her partner if she hasn't already done so.

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I think what you say here is different — very different to suggest someone [b]should consider[/b] permanent birth control versus saying someone [b]should get[/b] a medical procedure that is permanent and carries some risks (however small).  There are many valid, highly effective birth control methods out there, and vasectomies aren’t for everyone.[/quote]

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