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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][i]In one case, someone brought the ingredients for an elaborate hot alcoholic beverage that involved her asking for a burner, a Dutch oven, and tons of time to heat it up and “mull it in time for dessert.” Never mind that I already had a full bar set up, beer/wine chilled, plenty of non-alcoholic beverages, and a different special cocktail all set up. My oven and stovetop were in use, so I had to move things around and get things for her, and the whole production really soured me on the rest of the night.[/i]

“I’m sorry, Sally, but I can’t accommodate this. My stove is already full, and I had no idea you were planning this. You can store the items here. Let me get you a drink so you can sit down.”[/quote]

I dealt with this situation where a guest wanted me to manage cooking something that required work and space and I cut them off at the knees and told them I had neither the time nor the space so they could enjoy their contribution at their own home. I was stressed about hosting that time because of things I had going on at work and it was a power move by her to stress me out more. She liked to act like everything was easy and a breeze and she would always do things to make situations harder for others. It was a power trip and I learned not to allow people to pull that at my parties.

If it was something easy to manage, I'd have no problem if they manage it. A friend also showed up wanting me to make a specialty drink. She expected me to prepare it. It involved cleaning and cutting fruit and mixing various things. I told her sure, sat her stuff in the kitchen and ignored it the entire get together. [/quote]

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