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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Too many boys are larping masculinity by just being loud, pushy, and obnoxious. I’ll be damned if some pudgy potato [b]who can’t even change a flat tire[/b] and thinks “masculinity” is ranting in YouTube comments sections is going to try to boss me around in or out of the bedroom.[/quote]

Both men and women should be able to change a tire. I taught both my sons and daughters to do so that they are not waiting around for a "white knight" to do it for them.

However, the idea that masculinity is defined by being able to perform manual labor is stupid. If I have a free weekend afternoon, I am not going to work on changing my oil. First, I do not enjoy doing so.

Next, I am better off doing something that makes me better at my job (I am a partner in BigLaw firm) than doing "tasks" around the house.

And, no, I do not think doing both works. If I am going to be the best at what I do, I need to put in the effort. Every minute I spend doing something I do not know how to do (like fixing a car) is a minute away from what I am best at.
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I am also a big law partner.

I agree that “being masculine” does not always mean doing physical labor.  My wife wouldn’t even trust me to do an oil change on the car nor would I even know where to start.

But I do help out with a lot of other things at our house — [b]taking out the garbage, loading the dishwasher, doing the laundry, cooking, feeding the dogs, just general cleaning up.[/b]   My wife really appreciates all of these things, especially when I do them just on my own.   There is no doubt that it has also resulted in me getting laid a lot more.   I don’t do it just for that reason but it’s a nice side benefit.

I think the “every minute” attitude is such a big law thing but so unhealthy.   You need to take breaks.   If I am working hard on a contract, I usually need a little mental break after an hour or two.   I go through some clothes in the washer.   It literally takes 5 minutes.   Wife is happy.   I am happy.   I still work my butt off.    But it’s not always a zero sum game.

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That's just picking up after yourself and doing the basics, like any teenager should do. Nothing really to brag about.

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