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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Scary how may posts there are of people who condone stealing from their elderly parents and finding ways to take their money. It is unfortunately a big issue with the elderly. They are frequently victims of family abuse.

OPs dad should prepare an itemized list of every minute of time he ever spent doing anything for her or her family and any money that was ever spent on her or her family over her lifetime and charge her for it at an equal rate of $80 an hour. [/quote]

So you are cool with the sibling who does nothing? Maybe OP should also start doing nothing.

Then, guess what? Her dad will have to hire someone and pay them to do the work.

OP--Ignore these bozos who never did all the work. They have no idea. If someone has not cleaned up poop explosions, sat in the ER for 13 hours straight, managed numerous doctors and follow up appts, visited multiple ALs to find the right one, done the taxes and on and on, then they should not speak a word here.

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You could be right, but history and exactness matter.

We have no idea if the parent already gave OP more time and money than their other siblings. Many times the “helping” sibling also received more of the parent’s time and financial generosity. It happens a lot that they don’t see it that way later.

We only have OP’s description of providing substantial caregiving, which by her own account is not exactly what’s being provided. Caregiving typically refers to activities of daily living, which sounds more like what you were providing. Hiring movers, picking up milk at Target, talking to potential facilities’ staff, and helping a parent throw things away and prepare for moving are not the same.

OP’s parent is now in assisted living, so she now can get the POA while her parent is still able to agree to it of their own volition.

If there will be no need of Medicaid, then maybe the large gifts to her will not be an issue.

But referring to being paid for “caregiving” that is not actually being provided in the normal sense could cause issues down the road. Saying she’s owed the money is also often considered a red flag. This is why it would be wise for her to consult with an eldercare attorney.

Some of the advice from the people you’re calling bozos is intended to protect OP as well. [/quote]

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