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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your sibling has no standing to sue. NONE whatsoever.

Please pay yourself honestly, if your father agrees and this is something you really need.

I will note that for most of the middle class, adult children would never dream of making their parents pay for their help. I have never actually heard of such an arrangement as yours. My best friend and her husband and teen spent multiple weeks sorting through their mother's stuff before moving her to assisted living, paying for sundries, etc... and none of that labor was paid.

I find your nickel and diming a little distasteful, but if you're desperately in need of money, and it makes your father have a more attentive and willing helper... sure, go ahead.

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I am worried about getting sued by my sibling, too! I am so glad you started this thread. I've begun tracking all the tasks associated with clearing items out, moving, selling the house, reviewing/signing contracts, managing payments for medicine, communication with nursing staff and doctors, paying hospital bills, overseeing the finances, opening new accounts, determining how to invest the home sale money, attending settlement (after reviewing all of the paperwork), meeting with the real estate agent, all the meetings with various contractors to prep the home for sale, and on and on, buying them grocery treats (they like cookies), etc, etc.

Like you, OP, I do not charge for visiting my parent, which happens on top of all the other stuff.

I would like to reimburse myself. Parent has said they wished there was a way they could give me more money. The way they said it was not quite right because they meant they wished they could leave more money to me since I do 90% of the work.

However, I have also made financial sacrifices to help this parent while the other sibling continues to get to work and save their money, have time for themselves, etc.

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