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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not one single person is defending my gf whose kids and grandkids are so warm/embracing of me and is hurt by the often-chilly reception she experiences—why can’t my kids treat her more in the way I am treated by her kids?  And my kids are plenty warm/easy with me — but still uneasy with gf.  After two years.[/quote]

I mean this is it in a nutshell. This isn’t about her kids, your kids, or anybody really, except you OP. You divorced your kids’ mom, and said deal with it. You’ve anchored yourself in a new family….and told your kids deal with it. Every single one of your decisions has benefited you and drastically impacted your own kids and grandkids, and you are just completely befuddled as to why everyone isn’t making this easier for you. I’m the poster upthread whose Dad is doing the same thing and let me tell you something: it’s the most fatal character flaw of men. You’re so selfish that you don’t even see it, and are blithely annoyed that everyone isn’t not only accepting your choices, but cheering you on.

Bluntly: own your shit and deal with the fallout. I love my father but I don’t respect him, and I am an intentionally different parent than he was. I bet your kids feel the same way about you. You chose this, and are choosing it presently. Consequences follow. [/quote]

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