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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I usually hate this term, but he is 100% gaslighting you. Agree with PP above, I’d be surprised if this came out of nowhere. Is this how he usually acts?[/quote]

That’s what it feels like to me. And he paints this picture of himself how he is totally calm and rational, and how I sound- he literally acts out what I sound like and I wish I could have recorded and played it back to you, because it’s some really gross mischaracerization projected at his top volume.

It is crazy making.

He has always done this after he makes a mistake and I get upset about it.

He won’t apologize but just blames me and makes me out to be some crazy person with major communication issues when some deep seated issues that is trying to paint him as a horrible person who is trying to hurt me and do terrible things. When I have never said anything close to that. [/quote]

We throw the divorce card around far too easily on this board but this guy has a major screw loose and it sounds like you’ve been dealing with this for awhile.

He didn’t make a mistake. This was on purpose, what’s not clear is why he did it.[/quote]

Ugh don’t say that. I was just getting to a point where I could gain back control of this by working on my part of the problem. I really would rather you be totally wrong and I hope you’re wrong. [/quote]

Though I guess if I take the approach I described above, i won’t have to experience my feelings being jerked around. And  I can anticipate what his response will be. And maybe I can even record it so I can improve on it with each go around.

And basically get to a point when all his crazy making responses will just slide off my back like it’s nothing. And then we can just bask in the silence of his acting like a jerk. lol. Something to that effect.[/quote]

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