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[quote=Anonymous]Did your son get depressed because he was failing courses -or- did he become depressed and as a result, failed courses?  If he was struggling with his courses, did he know how to seek help: 1) going to office hours with the professor and/or TA, 2) going to the offices on campus where extra help/support is offered for writing, math, etc, 3) hire a tutor for those classes, 4) find buddies in those classes to work and study with and 5) ask to meet with the professor one-on-one outside office hours.  A lot of young students may not know what to do when they find themselves struggling.  If that is the case, then he should give college another try somehow.  If he became depressed while at college and this affected his grades/performance, then I would have him meet with a therapist to discuss what he's going through and also meet with his psychiatrist to make sure his medications are at the right dosage.

Either way, it sounds like he is having a hard time with the fact that his peers are going back to school and he is not sure what his next steps will be.  That is understandable.  I would tell him that it's rare for people his age to have things all figured out.  Many kids are taking a gap year now or after they graduate.  Many are unsure what they want to major in and what they want to do in life.  Many will switch majors.  Many will want to transfer out of their colleges.  He doesn't need to have it figured out right now.

It sounds like even though he didn't have a successful semester and came home to regroup, he is being hard on himself.  He needs to be kind to himself.  Everyone has a time in their life when they are struggling, and he will get through this.

Does he have any learning differences that may have gone unnoticed?  My child was always on the honor roll with high grades, but was working twice as hard to get them.  An evaluation was very helpful and child qualified for extra time on tests, etc.  [/quote]

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