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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who immigrated as a child with her parents from then Soviet Union - my parents would help us if we needed but yes - [b]they would consider this a minor and fixable problem because they came here with no money, no connections, limited English skills and worked very hard for an upper middle class life. So being laid off in a country where you speak the language and know how to navigate would look like a minor issue to them. Also, that class and that generation does look down on women who don’t work and considers education/career a big deal [/b]so I believe they probably do look down on you which doesn’t help.

This said - has your husband tried to be blunt with them? About what he needs and wants from them? That particular subculture deals in bluntness a lot and may not even think you need help or want something more emotionally or otherwise unless you tell them because they operate on the assumption that you speak up. My whole family and all the people of similar background I know are that way.

Good luck, OP! Hope things improve. [/quote]

This OP. If they were working adults in 80’s or 90’s in Soviet Union / Russia, they went through economic crisis that you cannot even imagine. No salaries were paid, total collapse of economy, total collapse of country with its systems.

Yes, you feel that they don’t understand or sympathize with you, but based on what you wrote, you do not seem to understand them and the circumstances that they came from either.[/quote]

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