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[quote=Anonymous]OP, what is his incentive to change? He will keep treating you this way as long as you let him.

Think creatively about things you can do.

It’s not clear from the post that you’ve pushed him enough and highlighted the desperate situation and what you need. Can you do this calmly and firmly, with specific requests, and lay out the inequality in the current situation?

Can you move out with the kid? Or at least banish him to the basement?

Stop cooking for him.

Most importantly: Start asking for help. In your network. In his network. Without blaming him, make yourself sympathetic, help people see what’s going on. “Hey, can you watch DS for a couple hours on Saturday? I am so behind after all the cooking and cleaning last week after work, I need to run some errands”

“Hey, I’m close to a breakdown here, would you mind helping me with a few meals this week.”

“Hey, DS is really struggling with his OT cut off. Could we borrow some money to pay for a few sessions?”

Ultimately this is a divorce situation but for now you have fight to back to survive. Only you decide to be a martyr, so stop.[/quote]

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