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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here’s my take:

MIL wasn’t really late, but she wanted to show up a few minutes after the agreed time for attention. She just wanted everyone to be worked up so that when she arrived she would get that big “Grandma is here!” moment.

She wanted to feel important.

Instead, she showed up to an empty house and saw that plans would continue with or without her. That probably stung. I don’t know how old she is but I bet this became a metaphor for bigger things and she’s spiraling that nobody would even notice if she was gone. That’s why she’s so angry. She wanted to feel important and got very concrete proof that life goes on without her.

That said, all of that is your MIL’s issue to deal with. You should continue doing what you did which is sticking to your timeline and being happy to include her.

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This is actually pretty insightful. You might be on to something, especially when you consider what OP clarified, saying that the timing didn’t match up to where the MIL claimed to be stuck in traffic.

Dang! These older women can be manipulative as hell! [/quote]

It is insightful as to the reaction but I wouldn't assume she had ulterior motives. Calling 15 minutes before arrival time is polite, obviously it would be better not to be running late, but such is life.[/quote]

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