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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Teach your kids how to be financially independent.  Stress academics.  Thats the lesson learned.  Don’t rely on another spouse.  You never know what will happen down the road, so get them to focus on a career. [/quote]

That’s the tragedy. I had a great career and was independent and arguably more successful than DH for a while. But he got a nibble at something that was unique and asked for a turn: just 18 months of going hard at it and my turn would be next. We had been supporting each other mutually for several years so I trusted him.

18 months became “just 6 more months”, then stuff like saying he had left the office but 2 hours later and he wasn’t home yet, then last minute trips that conflicted with mine.

We were a team until we weren’t. My career got back burnered until it went cold. I don’t know how I could have changed that save for never meeting him.

I’m still figuring what my advice for my DDs will be. I have a had time right now suggesting they marry. I do think a portable, non-expiring credential (MD, JD, RN, DDS, DVM, etc) is very important for women. [/quote]

Ok, let’s not act like you made a totally irrational decision.  In a LOT of circumstances it makes sense for just one partner to focus on their career, and for a lot of women it works out fine.  Trusting your spouse who made a vow to you should not be a risk, but we know the world is not perfect.  Women like OP should not beat themselves up.  I will encourage my daughter to focus on her career but if it makes sense for her family to pull back, she may do what a lot of women do and pull back.[/quote]

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