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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my grandmother had advanced dementia.  She was so upset, scared and confused most all of the time, and particularly scared of caregivers, nurses and doctors.  She was on meds, but the anxiety was uncontrollable and she was delusional and irrational.  It was no way to live and there didn't seem to be an end In sight.

Then she fell and broke her hip.  They had to do surgery.  She was going to need months of PT but absolutely was not in a place mentally to follow instructions and she would be terrified.  It was going to be super traumatic for everyone, but especially her.  We had no idea how we were going to get through it.

She ended up dying of a blood clot in hip surgery, so the doctors told us.  It was an incredibly merciful way for her to go and we all thanked God.  We'd lost her mentally long ago and she was going to be tortured in her recovery (at best).

I think often at such advanced age and in declining health something comes along to precipitate a health crisis, be it a broken hip or a stroke or pneumonia.  Get the support you need, but also know that things can change very, very quickly.  This won't go on forever.[/quote]

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