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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would file in court with my lawyer tomorrow. It could still take years. Obviously he doesn’t care about being in contempt of court. At least get the process started.

Stop communicating with him. Maybe write one more message that he’s taken advantage of you for years and you’re not taking it anymore. And please communicate through the attorney from now on. And that’s it.

And even if he commits suicide it’s not your fault. Just telling you that now. Not at all.[/quote]

OP here. Thanks for this. 
Another commenter mentioned something about me “still hanging on” or something like that. I have zero romantic feelings or hopes with him. I want nothing to do with him. The reason I’ve been way too patient is because of his mental health. And partly because I have been harboring guilt.
I did the right thing for MY mental health and my life, but I do truly feel bad for him and I know he feels like I abandoned him, stopped supporting him, not honoring our vows etc. But again I had to get out. [/quote]

I was that poster, and everything you posted is exactly what I meant.

You seem like a nice person that really wanted your marriage to work, you still feel badly that it didn't, and you're still hoping your ex gets it together - for his sake, not necessarily yours. But all of that is not allowing you to fully detach and get rid of this liability risk.

It's been two years since you separated. Not only is it time to press the issue on the mortgage, it's time to stop communicating with him at all and truly move on.[/quote]

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