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[quote=Anonymous]The situation and feelings you described in your post are identical to what I’m going through. I realize your post is 8 years old, but if by some chance you are able to see this reply, I wonder how you are doing now and if you’ve found ways to cope with loving a child who doesn’t have the interests and potential you always imagined they would. I was raised in a family that valued academic success above all else. To a large extent, I think I acquired that same mentality that one’s value is determined by their accomplishments. I was always a straight A student, in the Gifted and Talented program since elementary school, top of my class, varsity athlete, went to an Ivy League school, and earned my doctorate and have a very respected profession. As luck would have it, my first child was born with a rare genetic disorder (de novo, not inherited from either me or my husband) and is non-verbal and developmentally delayed. He’ll be three in a few months and he has never called me mama, hardly acknowledges us, doesn’t have any knowledge of shapes, colors, numbers, doesn’t respond to his name, etc. It’s very likely he will be nonverbal, intellectually disabled, and require support the rest of
his life. I’m finding it extremely hard to relate to him and enjoy him for who he is. I love him dearly, but I find myself frustrated and disappointed by his inability to learn and develop. I know it isn’t his fault, but I’m extremely depressed and devastated at his situation and ours. It’s hard for me to accept that he will likely never accomplish any of the things I imagined for him when I first held him in my arms. My feelings cause me even greater depression, as I’m ashamed by my inability to love unconditionally and just be happy he is otherwise healthy and happy. His diagnosis is fairly new, so I’m hoping and praying the acceptance will come. If you have any advice or insight now that it’s been 8 years since your post, I will be grateful! [/quote]

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