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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reality is that raising children is more than a full-time job.
If mom or dad wants a career, the family needs to hire someone who will prioritize the children since the parents won't.
I've said this before - there are commitments one makes in life. The commitment to 4 years of college comes with assumptions that you aren't going to be working full-time, right?
The commitment to a job comes with assumptions that you aren't working another 2 or 3 jobs on the sides too, right?
How is it that people think that a commitment to parenting allows you to have an uninterrupted career too? It is an intensive 10 years which starts to taper off gradually, then quickly in the next 10 years.[/quote]

I don’t think that “working” equates a “commitment to a career.” People can work part time, people can work jobs where they get up and walk out at 5 and not think about it until they return the next day, people can work remote, people can take a couple years off, etc. There are a lot of options. For me, maintaining basic family security (housing, food, stability in marriage) is paramount. You can get to that in a number of ways and dual income households is one of those ways. Growing up in a financially insecure home with parents who divorced (in large part due to financial strain) is not an experience I want to pass along to my children. So, it’s not a matter of commitment to raising children, it’s also a matter of protecting the children and family from all those other things.[/quote]

Agreed.  But you need a spouse who is 1000% on board with this.  I gave up a well paying career in early 30s to SAHP.  Why?  Because I wanted to be home with the kids.  Also knew my spouse had more potential for higher level career (I had no desire to be upper management, and wanted to stay in the technical path).  But I knew that if anything ever happened, my spouse would support me and the kids, as they are a genuinely good person.  30+ years later still happily married, largely because spouse was free topuruse career without stress on the Homefront.

And I got the wonderful years with the kids without added stress of managing a FT job.

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