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[quote=Anonymous]I am in full agreement with this:
"The way you've structured things, his duty is to struggle to bring in 100% of the financial resources your family needs to survive. Your duty is to manage the household and children. If you expect him to share your load, are you planning to bring in money?"

OP says that her DH opposes her getting a job. That's probably because she doesn't have skills or credentials that enable her to earn more than the cost of daycare for all those kids. Care for their infant is definitely going to cost a lot.

By having so many kids and not earning a paycheck, OP has created her own domestic prison. I'm guessing she dismissed all the women who warned her about this, like almost all SAHMs do. She seems to have thought that since her parents have some wealth, that would insulate her from all the downsides of being a SAHM if things went south in her marriage. But the reality is that unless she's comfortable being a "kept" woman by her parents and all the BS that would come with that, she's stuck with the husband and his dumb rules and expectations. When you give up your role as a self-sufficient adult and take on the role of a dependent, the dynamics change. No other adult will both financially carry you AND see you as their adult equal.

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