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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You dont need an attorney or a trust.  Tour multiple facilities, some are better than others.

For those who say it's a prison or to avoid it, they likely didn't have family who needed that environment.  It got to a point where it was unsafe for my dad to be at home.   We hired 24/7 care so that someone was awake even when he was asleep.  Because he had instances of waking up at night and doing something dangerous.   Knives and anything sharp had to be locked up.   The house had to be childproofed so he couldn't turn on the stove or oven.   But then his dementia got to the point that he would have angry outbursts.   Thankfully, he never hurt my mom.   But having worked with people with dementia, I know full well the possibility is there.  I've been hurt by them. It was a hard decision but sometimes these "prisons" are absolutely the safest options.  [/quote]

Had a relative who 8+ years ago, requested to go to a facility, as their memory started to decline.  They didn't feel safe at home.  Even once the doctors got the medications adjusted, the relative was happier in the facility, as they themselves didnt' worry about harming themselves accidentally (beginning stages of Alzheimers ) So for them, they felt great relief knowing they were safely "locked" in a facility, with activities to do, and didnt' have to worry about wandering off, etc.  I'd argue that getting someone into a facility sooner in the progression of the illness is much better.  And having access to engaging activities and interactions with others is huge for "slowing the progress" as much as you can.  Whereas sitting at home, with one or two family members and caregivers is not the same at all. [/quote]

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