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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My simple philosophy was that I just did not trust other adults with my kids.

My kids knew not to go to a teachers room on their own.  They had to take another classmate with them.  Protected my kid and protected the teacher from false allegations.

They knew not to change in the open locker area for gym in school or swimming pool.  I always gave them a men's XXL t-shirt and they put it on their head and changed clothes underneath it, making the t-shirt their own privacy tent.  When they shower in a stall in the family changing rooms, I stood guard outside. [b]Why? Because grown ass women with gray pubic hair and stretched out boobs would be walking around naked. [/b] Similarly, the clothes were changed in a changing booth with a lockable door.

We became the house which hosted people. I made it attractive for both parents and children. I would rather that I was used as a free and trusted babysitter - rather than send my kids to other people's home.  And if that meant that I was feeding someone's kids 2 meals a day, and helping them do their homework, I was ok with it.

We made sure that my kid was not excluded from any social activity, and the best way to ensure that was to host all these events in our house and invite and include everyone. I did not care if people did not reciprocate.  Did it cost me money, time, resources, energy etc- yes, it did.

In HS, the last thing we wanted was that our kids get into bad company, toxic relationships and bad peer pressure. So, we made sure that they were busy in their EC activities and studies. And for that we made sure that they did these activities with their friends. We made opportunities for all the kids in our circle. We made sure that all the school events were attended by them and we hosted every kid who wanted to attend. We roaped in the parents to carpool for these events and we provided the party.  No bf-gf issues. No promprosal drama. No staying over in a hotel for after party nonsense.  We also made sure that my kids knew about the perils of social media and they kept their digital footprints clean.

Everyone knew that my kids were under our supervision and they never got into a bad situation. I drove them to school, I was available to pick them up from their school, their EC, their tournament etc.  There are many parents who were like us and we made sure that we were working the logistics together.

When my kids went to college and had talks with their dormmates, they were shocked to hear how many of them talked about poor relationship with their parents, abuse, neglect etc.  It was eye-opening for them.

Finally, please be open with your kids. Explain the world to them, teach them about predators, teach them about how  they can be safe, ask them their opinion.  [/quote]
That is a bizarre example. What makes that scary? [/quote]

Because it was really happening.  No modesty and shocking for my young kids. Some women are stark naked in the locker ( and usually it was old ones), casually walking around, talking to each other, being in the open.  Maybe they wanted to drive away moms with kids from the pool. They succeeded.  But, for me, they were just perverted predators and exibitionists. Who behaves like this? The same behavior from men would have not been accepted.  [/quote]

Some men are naked in their locker rooms. Please don't confuse nudity in pool locker rooms with grooming or abuse. These people have different ideas of what's acceptable in a pool locker room, that's all. If they were naked in the elevator, THAT would be exhibitionism.
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