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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Eh. My parents didn’t do this at all, but I name calling when I get really mad at dh. Unlike others, I don’t think generalized words are all that impactful. I’m aware it’s trashy and wrong but sometimes I blurt things out. ‘Dh, you are such a f’in prick!!’ In my defense, dh can be a very frustrating dirty fighter in his own right- he’s famous for the twisting non sequitor or bringing up old issues- and this is usually what proceeds my name calling.

[b]Our argument style is definitely bad[/b], but fortunately we’ve been able to limit them, we don’t do it when kids are home, and we make up quickly.

If this happened early on in our relationship, I would take pause and re assess and see if I could fix it before moving forward, but at my stage, it’s not breakup worthy. [/quote]
You should not be giving the OP advice if you admit you do this, and know it's bad. JFC. Grow up. [/quote]

Honestly I think it’s you who needs to grow up. There is no perfect marriage because there is no perfect human. Life is a balance of priorities. [/quote]
My marriage is not perfect, but I can say hand on heart that I have never yelled at my husband in anger and called him a f'in prick. I can also say the same that my husband has never yelled at me and insulted me. You sound like you are stuck in the cycle of abuse and cannot escape. Your reaction is unhealthy, but understandable when you are with another abusive person. Sounds like he definitely needs therapy to get over whatever previous issues he has, but you also should consider it to realize that this isn't a healthy way to live.

A calm, peaceful life without yelling, screaming and name calling IS possible. I hope you have a long peaceful stretch and don't have to deal with this too often. [/quote]

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