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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just looking for a little solidarity or perspective here. My DD9 is active, silly, and full of life. I really thought she’d love a particular sport we tried, one that I also loved as a kid, and I was excited to share it with her. But after giving finishing a camp this week, it’s clear she’s just not into it. She hasn’t clicked with any other structured activities either, and I’ll admit, I’m feeling disappointed.

Not because I need her to be a star athlete or anything, but because I had hoped she’d find something to be passionate about, to feel like she belongs. It’s hard to let go of that picture I had in my mind, and harder still to see her drifting without something that’s “hers.”

I want to respect who she is, not who I imagined she might be. Has anyone else been here? How did you shift your mindset and support your DC in a way that still helps them grow and feel confident, even if they’re not into organized sports or clubs?

Would love to hear how others reframed their hopes or found other ways for their kids to feel connected and fulfilled.[/quote]

I think kids don't need to be pigeonholed into an activity that is their "passion." The more you keep signing her up for activities the more she is going to resent you and feel (correctly) that you are disappointed in her for not being one of those specialist kids. Sorry to burst your bubble but a lot of these specialist sport/dance/gymnastics kids are maladjusted and often get very bad injuries that require surgery. [/quote]

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