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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He becomes too clingy and is constantly texting and asking to see the girls he dates and always winds up getting dumped.  He largely ignores his guy friends when he is dating and then when he is dumped he is depressed and isolated until he can rekindle those friendships.  We've sent him to a therapist, which doesn't help.  I don't feel like I can tell him that he is forbidden from dating as a 16 year old, but I wish I could because this dynamic is not healthy for him.  What can I reasonably do that I haven't already done besides talking to him and sending him to the therapist?[/quote]

OP, this is called anxious attachment style and there are books and podcasts and lots of tik toks, reels, etc... about it.

I think it is good you are recognizing this and not making it the girl's fault which many boy moms do.

He's has to figure out why he is like that (usually stems from looking at love as chaotic and have to prove your worth, or abandonment issues) and recognize and heal that before it rewires his brain that this is how love goes. He shouldn't date for awhile until he can become more stable.

There are a lot of great people online that help those with anxious attachment style and learn how to watch the energy of the other person, read the room, and when to lean out.  Many teens and adults with anxious attachment also tend to have ADHD or anxiety.  [/quote]

THIS!![/quote]

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