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[quote=Anonymous]This is not about whether OP and her daughter have a "right" to exclude anyone they wants to exclude-- of course they does. They also have the "right" not to say please or thank you, and to laugh when other people are hurt.... This is about consideration and good manners, not "rights" and obligations.

That said, I don't think it sounds like OP did anything inappropriate in terms of the actual party: assuming the there are at least ten or so girls in the class, there's nothing "mean" about having a small party with only five invited.

At the same time, OP, why are ou so outraged by the call from the mom and so convinced that the other mom's child is "demanding"? It sounds like a misunderstanding, and your child may have caused it-- she may have implied it was a sleepover, or said "and you're not invited because o one likes you," or something like that. Strikes me that rather than assume the worst about the other mom and her child, you might have been a little more compassionate to a mom who might have been trying, indirectly, to let you know that our daughter is behaving badly to hers_ or at least that her daughter is suffering.

I'd also suggest reaching out to the teacher and asking her if there's something deeper going on here between this girls and your daughter.

And finally-- I'd use it as a teachable moment for your daughter. I don't mean you should insist that she invite the other girls, but use it as an opportunity to find out what your daughter's perception of the social dynamics are, and to point out that sometimes misunderstandings and gossip can be unintentionally hurtful.[/quote]

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