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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand the behavior OP is pointing out and also find it annoying. A lot of people are focused on the “private club” thing and zeroing in on it. But instead, think of it as “people bringing the entire extended family to every possible event and taking over the space.” I was at kid swim lessons this morning at the rec center and there was a family on the bleachers - what looked like mom and dad, another adult woman, that woman’s 2 children, and what I’m assuming were the grandparents. With their stuff and coffees and water bottles spread out everywhere as well. No, no one was staying after for open swim or additional lessons or whatever that I could tell.

I agree, it would be off-putting to go to your pool club, there’s not too many people there, but of the, say, 50 people there, 10 are part of one group and there are also two groups of 6-8 and they only want to talk to/play with/hang out with each other. [/quote]m

Same thing at swim lessons yesterday! I was hanging out in the bleachers with a book, and below me a huge family slowly trickled in- mom, dad, grandparents, what might have been an aunt/sister, siblings, etc. for one kid. It was more people than could fit in a single vehicle, so they planned to meet to watch a 20-minute lesson? Who knows.

They set up shop and took over the small area and surrounded me (I was up high and in the middle so I wasn’t blocking an end or anything). A few other parents trickled in, saw there was no room in the bleachers, and spent the lesson standing awkwardly to the side on the deck. I eventually got up and moved because it was so uncomfortable to be surrounding by 9 family members are talking past/over/around me. So weird. Meet for lunch or at the park after![/quote]

My 3rd grader’s recorder concert - really just a half hour long thing after school, set up in the risers in the cafeteria, pretty low key - became standing room only because of the HUGE family groups. They literally ran out of folding chairs. I don’t know that you need to roll 20 people deep to the recorder concert. Parents and siblings sure, a grandparent if they want to come, ok. But I was seeing groups of multiple adults, the teen/college age siblings and their SO’s, multiple grandparents, aunts/uncles/cousins, etc etc. It’s just SO MUCH. That’s why graduations have a number of tickets available and every year it’s, “we need more than 6 tickets to accommodate all my relatives, can anyone give me their extra tickets?” [/quote]

When did all of this start? Same thing happened for the 2nd grade xylophone “share-out” (not even a concert!). I had to text my DH to cancel a call and race over because everyone else had a huge family group at 2 pm including HS siblings and grandparents and cousins, not just the one parent suggested by the music teacher. DD didn’t mind when DH didn’t make it but did express confusion and said she had thought it wasn’t a real concert so why did so many people come?

Is this a post-covid thing?[/quote]

Joy of being a part of a larger group than just two parents and a sibling of average Americans. Plus, abuela's neighbor didn't have anything that afternoon so decided to accompany abuela, ok, nothing wrong even if it's not how it was when you were in second grade :)([/quote]

It’s not just a Hispanic families thing though, I know my white friends at a different school are big offenders, she’ll post pics on FB of the neighbors and both sets of grandparents and multiple little cousins at the mid-day preschool graduation and it’s like … why lol. [/quote]

Yeah, it's definitely a you thing. Right question is 'why not?'[/quote]

Because it’s rude, a lot of these smaller events have limited space and seating. [/quote]

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