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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But my tween acts like she’s aggrieved if we say no to them. She has three friends, all in our neighborhood, and they want to have sleepovers constantly. I’m a single mom and for me, they are very overstimulating. I feel like I have to be “on” and can’t relax like normal. It’s also stressful thinking of providing food and snacks that four girls will all like, so no one goes hungry on my watch. I can’t explain it, it’s just high stress. She had a sleepover two weeks ago and one last week, and I said no to one this week and she claims I’m ruining her social life. I just can’t do this every week, and there are still nearly two months of summer left. It makes me not even want to host kids for just the day! [b]How can I help her understand that it’s not that I don’t want her socializing, but that it’s a lot of responsibility for ME, and I need a break. [/b][/quote]

This is your problem, OP. Your goal is all wrong. There is no way you are going to be able to say or do anything that will make your tween help you feel better about setting a limit. It is 100% super reasonable to limit sleep overs at your house to once a month. As the adult, you set that limit calmly and firmly. You actually don't even really need to give a reason. Your tween will be upset. She will complain, she will try to guilt you by saying that you don't care about her or her social life. You (and she) already know perfectly well that she can still socialize without hosting a sleepover, so you don't need to engage or try to convince her otherwise.

Set the limit. We (parents) all agree it's reasonable. Stop looking for a way for her to make it easy for you. Eventually she will get use to it and it will be a non issue.[/quote]

+100

Draw the limit and be confident that it’s the right decision for you right now. You can’t and shouldn’t make every decision hinge on the happiness of your child. [/quote]

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