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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are doing well in their chosen fields but financially not able to maintain lifestyle they are accustomed to. We are trying to subsidize but regret not pushing them hard and forcing our decisions like many of our friends did and now their kuds are very well off.[/quote]

People say that a lot.  Why do you think they all want to maintain your chosen lifestyle?    They should choose  their own lifestyle which might not duplicate their childhood.  I agree that subsidizing adult kids is a good idea if you can afford it but they shouldn’t be pushed into a high paying career that they hate.  That’s just miserable[/quote]

DP here. Meh. OP kinda describes me and I think what happened is that I did not realize how expensive life is. My parents had enough that I did not have to stress through college or early adulthood. They could give me down payment for my apartment etc. I made enough to support myself in my twenties, but not enough to save much. Then you get to be thirty and you are like, damn, I need more money than this if I want to have money for retirement and have kids. Some kids raised in relative affluence just don't get it until they are well in their way to adulthood. It could be a good idea for parents to say, "Look, do what you want, but just know that it takes a high paying job to have the lifestyle you are accustomed to, and unfortunately we won't be able to leave you enough to supplement that lifestyle."[/quote]

You didn’t address the part where parents assume their kids want to re-live their childhood  by being the parents with a suburban home, two or three kids, private schools, obsession with travel sports.  The idea bores a lot of young people.  A more chill environment is what they might be hoping for.   City living, rural living, anything but that White suburban town that they grew up in.

The ones who want to replicate that way of living know what it takes to maintain it.  The ones looking for a change have different ideas than their parents. [/quote]

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