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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is neurodivergent and has some stimming behaviors like this. Not this specific one, but she makes a specific noise when she's concentrating (impossible to replicate, it's like a clicking in her throat). We understand this is a self soothing behavior and it's very satisfying to her, but we also know that if she continues to do it, it will annoy peers, teachers, coworkers, friends, etc. So we have talked to her about being self-aware about it and trying to only do it when she is alone. She has actually been pretty successful with this.

It's very hard as a parent of an ND kid because I am actually NOT trying to "norm" her -- her neurodivergence is pretty apparent to most people who interact with her and we are more than okay with that. But we feel we have an obligation to her to help her with certain habits that could become real obstacles to living a fulfilling life.

I also have some ND behaviors and I wound up talking to her about stims I do that are silent or unobtrusive. She wound up adopting a kind of nodding head jerk instead of the sound. She's literally doing it right now while reading next to me lol. It's still the kind of think that will annoy some people, but it's less disruptive than the sound so we've encouraged the switch.[/quote]

What happens if your ND child is next to an ND child who is disturbed by jerky movements? [/quote]

Then those two kids probably shouldn't be seated next to one another which is not that hard to accomplish. But a jerky movement while reading is going to be less disruptive to 99% of people than a repeated vocalization, so it's still preferable and will make life easier for my kid. Again, I'm not trying to eliminate all evidence of her neurodivergence, I'm trying to help her find a way to navigate the world WITH her neurodivergence. One method for that is to find stims that are less obtrusive and less likely to hold her back socially or professionally.[/quote]

+1 also why many kids are encouraged to put their hands in their pockets rather than flapping in the cafeteria line, etc[/quote]

That's a social faux pas. Why would you encourage kids to play pocket pool?[/quote]

It is sometimes recommended.
https://www.mayinstitute.org/news/acl/asd-and-dd-adult-focused/reducing-self-stimulatory-behaviors-in-individuals-with-autism/[/quote]

However, polite society considers this rude. Likely, as rude as humming in public. Children should stand at attention until called upon, Baroness von Trapp. [/quote]

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