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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t say this lightly but you should divorce. Life is too short. With his BigLaw schedule and salary you’ll get primary custody and child support. You will have to stay in the city you dislike but you can get away from him. [/quote]

No, she won’t get primary custody. She’ll get 50-50. He can adjust his hours or higher a nanny on his time.[/quote]

He won’t adjust his hours, lol.

And judges do still pay attention to whether the parent can actually parent. if the plan is “I will have the kids 50% of the time but they will be with the nanny and I won’t arrive until after bedtime” then OP has a strong case to get more than 50%. If he has not been an active parent up until the divorce the judge will also look askance. [/quote]

I divorced an attorney. Only 5% of cases go to court. He will change hours or hire a nanny to get 50-50 to avoid paying more child support. Men do to all the time; men also do zero and still get 50-50. Mine did and many others I know who while married would not do any childcare when they were married. [/quote]

OP is on pretty firm legal ground to get more than 50%, whether in court or mediation based on reported cases. A father who hasn’t parenting and isn’t planning on parenting just does not have a claim to 50%. [/quote]

For example here is a recent MD case where the surgeon father did not actively parent and had a demanding job, and was denied 50% custody. He got every other weekend.

https://www.courts.state.md.us/sites/default/files/unreported-opinions/0152s23.pdf[/quote]

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