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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I met on eHarmony over a decade ago, but I tried multiple sites. The experience was usually not great. The problem you’re not starting with a random distribution of people. The guys who were 9s and 10s often weren’t on the site. They generally locked down gorgeous women in college. So you’re starting with guys who range from 1 to 8 with a tiny fraction of 9s/10s thrown in. Then, the above-average men find their partners and leave, increasing the percentage of below-average men in the population.

I’m sure the exact same phenomenon is true for women.

I had to go on many, many bad dates to find my husband over a series of years. No idea of eHarmony is still around, but I know it refused to match some of my acquaintances. I also never met a felon on eHarmony, which I can’t say for other sites. If it hadn’t changed, I would recommend eHarmony to the committed  single. [/quote]

This is why apps don't work for women.  [b]Every woman is entitled to a guy who's a 9 or 10, [/b]but those guys aren't on the dating apps.  We need a different system for women.[/quote]

I’m the pp you quoted.  I can’t tell if you’re being serious or sarcastic. People exist on a bell curve. Most people are inherently below a 9 or a 10, due to the nature of a bell curve. I’d say I took a 5 and turned him into at least an 8. DH needed a haircut, facial hair, and a new wardrobe. He was a winter wearing mostly summer colors and he looked ill. His OLD pictures were old and unflattering. DH’s personality had always been a 10 for me, so I’m glad I was able to help his outsides better match his insides. I would have married him if he’d refused the makeover, but I’m glad he was flexible. Moral of the story? Just because you can’t score a 10 doesn’t mean the guy isn’t worth dating. What constitutes a 10 for one woman won’t constitute a 10 for others. [/quote]

DP, but you missed the joke/point.

That poster was obviously saying how all women, even those 1/10 think they deserve a 8/10+ guy, due to being raised in a culture of participation trophies and being told how special and great they always were.

Women, and men, have too high self-valuation and never realize that no matter what they think they rank, it's usually well below that.

If one were to ask 10 random people to rate them 1/10 to 10/10, the majority of people will rate a person 7/10 just to be polite, unless one is really a 10/10 in perceived attraction to them.

Side note, sure looks are subjective, but when talking large sample groups, they really don't become subjective anymore as outliers are eliminated. [/quote]

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