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Eldercare is VERY HARD. Caregivers often form a bond with their clients. Their clients are understandably grateful, and show it with money. Unless YOU want to take over the caregiving full time, OP, you don't get a say.

Now if you suspect elder abuse, given your father's recent change in personality, you should contact the requisite services where he lives. But I think PP is right: you should first say you're visiting to give them wedding gifts, and try to low-key investigate while you're there. If they don't allow you inside, or refuse to socialize with you, then you alert authorities. NOT ICE! The one for elder abuse.
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I suspect that she already is has intent to continue to commit financial abuse of an elder, immigration fraud of some sort, and the possibility that she will harm him (due to her two prior elderly dead husbands).

If a an ugly but food chain savvy hyena  was moved into your home under guise of protecting the home, but clearly starts to attack the vulnerable, you would notice. These people are old, they are unaware of me being able to notice what’s happening or gather information. She is late 50s or early 60s. I feel like I’m being gaslighted in the most obvious way.

The thing is I can’t get her busted for crimes that are not really crimes (yet?) because he married her.  That is why I asked about ice. That would be a quick solution to get rid of the pirate who is process of devastating my family.

Sorry about typos my phone autocorrects    ruthlessly. [/quote][/quote]

You've received lots of good advice on this thread. What is your plan now?[/quote]

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