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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - Thank you all for the feedback.

I've been doing some of the "free" stuff already (on Reddit - helping some FGLI kids as well as scholar match). Will look into other suggestions now - thank you!!

For the PP, who doubted me - how weird?
I have two kids (my own) who I've helped get into multiple T20. Through a local org supporting low-income kids (similar to B&G club), I've read drafts and completed apps for several (yes, plural) kids.

[b]And then, yes, if you are our age, you have a LOT of friends and family who come to you once they see the success your kid has had in the process (read this, help review draft app, revise EC list, suggest summer activities to support major, develop a "theme"). [/b]

My own kids actually didn't have perfect stats or profiles AT ALL - and one actually had some "flaws". I'm not even advertising here - why the HATE or disbelief? My own kids didn't have the perfect stats for HYPSM, but other friends & relatives did (and were eventually successful). Why is that hard to believe?

Anyway, to the actual helpful responders, thank you. I'll explore opportunities for application reading this summer, along with perhaps trying to get some experience with a more legit private counseling firm.

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You do?  Honestly and with all due respect I have never seen this happen with anyone in our large family and friend group ever.  Lots of parents have kids who are admitted to top colleges who are not inundated like you say you have been. It’s just not typical.  If it’s happening the way you describe, it’s because you were taking the lead other parents - not the other way around.

I literally know of no one who has ever gotten involved with any of their kids’ friends’ parents over the details of their college applications the way that you have described. Not once.[/quote]

That's because you don't know people like OP - who literally micromanage every detail of their kids' college applications and talk incessantly about it to others. I have one kid in college and one applying next year, and I will occasionally run across a parent like OP. Last time, it was over drinks with a mom I've known casually for years, but it was the first time I'd seen her since her kid got into college. She not only told me about his application process in excruciating detail, she read me parts of his personal statement from her phone. She was clearly extremely proud of herself for writing it (or, to give her the benefit of the doubt, rewriting it). Since then, she has offered multiple times to help with my younger child's process because she thinks he will "need help" beyond what our high school counseling office can offer. I have started to avoid her.[/quote]

Well, I don’t know about all of that, but I did find it weird I will admit. OP says when you reach “our“ age and the kids have college admissions success this sort of thing is kind of inevitable - but we sent four kids to college, and we never had any of those kind of conversations with literally anyone. Not even family. And our kids went to good schools as did many of our relatives and friends’ kids and of course many of our kids’ friends.  It was just not a topic of conversation other than “so where is Susie going to college? Oh, that’s great!“

Of course, I cannot speak for everyone, but I’d be very surprised if most people in the world were in OP‘s class when it comes to this kind of thing as opposed to ours.[/quote]

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