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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL lives in another country, and is a hoarder. She’s even left stuff in our house. Seems like she will not be travelling to visit us anymore, due to health issues. I told my husband we should donate her stuff, or tell my kids to sell the stuff on ebay. He seems to fear her wrath and does not want to deal with any if it, and it drives me crazy. I guess at some point, I will be able to pull a “I told you so”!.

Her bedroom in her house is packed with clothes. I told my husband  to not ask me to help out with her stuff because I will chuck it all. Plus, I am taking care of my mother with alzheimer in our house, in the States. Everytime her children bring up the issue, she lashes out at them.

I am grateful my mother moved a few times after she turned 60, so she didn’t have a lot of stuff when we moved her in with us.

I feel for them, but it is their battle for now. [/quote]

So, your mom is welcome but you belittle your MIL?  Who cares about her house in another country. You can get rid of it all when she dies.  When my mom died and we were cleaning out her house, we found a lot of boxes unopened….QVC.  It was a bright spot opening the box to see what she ordered.  We donated and trashed what we didn’t want. [/quote]

I am an only child, so I have no other choice. My MIL would have to get a green card to move here permanently. Then there is that pesky health insurance issue too. When she was healthier, and could travel, she stayed with us for one to two months each year. She also has a son and a daughter in her home country. Add to that, the daughter, and her family live for free in my MIL’s house.

Was your mom a hoarder?  My MIL saves the grocery store styrofoam veggie and fruit trays, along with glass containers. Her clothes are moldy, because they are still in bags. She pretty much wears the same clothes, and is a homebody.

She gave me a hard time for not saving formula stained walmart brand onsies for her yet to be born grandkids.  She also gave me a hard time for not dressing my kids in her daughter’s 1994 style dresses to go to a bouncy house birthday party. I mean, she had to prove to us that saving all those dresses was the smart thing to do. Mind you, she lives in a Third World country, where poor kids knock on her door asking for food. [/quote]

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