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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My short answer is no. I fully committed to BF and pumping, and did it for a year. In hindsight I wish I had realized how hard it was and given myself permission to stop. On the upside, I had an incredible support network through the women at work who used our nursing moms room. [/quote] I actually liked breastfeeding because once I got through the learning curve I found it easier than dealing with bottles. Though pumping when I went back to work was awful. [b]But there is this extent to which breastfeeding tethers you to your baby, makes it hard for others to.provide care and you to get a break longer than a few hours, and makes you feel like your body isn't your own. [/b]You worry about the meds you're taking for instance. I found in the early days when babies are just little balls of need it gets easy to hyper focus on breastfeeding because it's pushed hard and because weight is basically the early thing you can track to see how your baby is doing. But then in hindsight you realize motherhood is much much more than that. But in the early days it's hard to see through the fog.[/quote] If you don’t breastfeed and are friends with women who do, it’s easy to see how limiting it is for women. I had more autonomy because I didn’t breastfeed. It helped make my husband more of a primary parent because I wasn’t the sole food source. The women in the worst marriages in terms of equality are the ones who breastfed kids until they were toddlers. They are the primary parent by far and it’s like the dad hardly even exists. The dads who can’t be left with a child and don’t plan or take any initiative to care for their child. I’m convinced the breastfeeding movement is by women who want women to have as difficult of a life as possible. There are frequent posts by miserable women breastfeeding and comments to keep going, it gets better etc. Why suffer when you don’t need to? Formula is freedom. [/quote] Why’d you have kids if you want freedom. It’s not like you’re nursing for 18 years. [/quote]
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