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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you saying you are going to pay for their OLDER siblings but not the MIDDLE sibling?

Yeah no.

Either take the two youngest and leave out the older siblings - ALL of them - or include the middle sibling.

My family did this to me once. On Mother's Day weekend. They all went to the mountains and did not invite me. Did not tell me they were going. My mom told me later my Dad wanted to invite me but my oldest sibling did not so they left me out.

It was really hurtful. I was calling them on Mother's Dat, trying to get through, to see if the flowers had arrived, etc. Finally my aunt told me where they were. Flowers died on the doorstep since they did not come back for a week.[/quote]
Why didn’t they want to go with you? What were the issues?[/quote]

They don't have any concrete reasons. I am not mean, not rude, not a drug addict, not a criminal, not loud, not messy, etc. My oldest sibling and spouse are the kind of people who get a kick out of isolating and criticizing one person, excluding them, making fun of them. I have seen them do this in various parts of the family - especially in his. In his family this sibling doesn't like that one, one sibling is always the odd one out, etc. I am my mom's least favorite so they get away with it.

The only real issue is that they always expected me to take the suckiest sleeping situation (think: basement bedroom with mold or living room couch) so that each of their kids can have their own bedroom. Like, they would expect to kick me out of my childhood bedroom and sleep on the couch while their elementary age kids each had their own rooms. I would stick up for myself and say a grown up should get a room and two siblings can share a room and that was seen as selfish on my part. Oh, and they resented that I would sometimes set boundaries when they tried to treat me like the household help (like they would expect me to drop everything and babysit with no notice even if I had other plans, they expected me to haul all their unnecessary beach crap out to the beach despite me being injured, etc.)[/quote]
You realize this is very one sided interpretation and there is a lot more to it, right?  
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