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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s alarming how many people here will side with bullying a kid. However, it proves that insecurities like this child’s are hard to overcome! Be better, everyone![/quote]

No one is bullying a kid FFS. She was talking to another adult and the kid in question will never know about it.[/quote]

You're fine with getting called an ***hole by other people if you never get to know about it?

Yeah, I don't think you are, hypocrite.

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Why would I care? I would prefer that someone call me that to my face if I'm being an a**hole but I couldn't care less.

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+1, I'm sure people have called me names behind my back before and I don't really have an issue with it. What other people think of me is none of my business.[/quote]

Lies. You do care. You would not want any parent calling your kid an ***hole, even if none of you knew about it. Stop trolling on DCUM. I bet you made up this thread solely to argue about this.
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First of all, sometimes my kid *is* being an ***hole. And while it doesn't bring me pleasure to think that others might be thinking that or saying it out loud behind my back, it doesn't make me upset with them. In those instances, I am focused on correcting my child's problematic behavior.

It's crazy to me that people seem to think the worst possible thing that can happen here is that someone calls your kid a mean name in a private conversation you never hear about.

Obviously the bigger issue is that your kid behaves in a way that makes people (even just in their heads) think "wow, what an ***hole."

Fix the behavior, and what people think about your kid won't matter so much to you anymore. You're feeling defensive because you know your kid sometimes acts like this and you'd rather try to stop other people from observing and commenting on it than do the hard work of parenting to address it.[/quote]

+1. I know there are parents out there saying negative things about my kid's behavior. She has different issues, but I know people have called her a crybaby (which is fair). If she were being an a**hole, I'd assume they'd say that, too. You work on it, but two other parents saying mean things about her? I don't have enough years left on this Earth to give a fig about that.[/quote]

This! I know people cally kid "annoying" and "weird" behind her back. The people who use weird can eff off, I don't care about them. The people who say annoying aren't wrong and it's something we work on. But I don't have a problem with other people venting about how challenging my kid can be sometimes! I feel that way too. It's normal.

We don't have to pretend kids are all blank plates or that they don't have the capacity to annoy, bother, or hurt others. You need to always be the bigger person when interacting with them, but blowing off steam later? It's fine. [b]Kids are just people. Sometimes people are the worst.[/b][/quote]

Strongly agree with the bolded and it's strange to see people acting like kids aren't people with the full range of human behavior and personalities or that at least we all need to pretend like they aren't.[/quote]

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