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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You gotta tell us what the ask is [/quote]

I really can’t bc it’s too specific but it involves a very long drive and time away all bc they realized after the fact they can’t take care of it themselves. I could fix the problem but they have alternative ways to deal with it as well they don’t want to explore bc involving me would be less stressful to them. If I say no this [b]will have repercussions for me and the person will remember and hold it against me.[/b][/quote]

That's why she's asking you. It is essentially a blackmail. I'd rather not be around the person who does this.
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Exactly. OP, you're dealing with a bad person who sees you as a target to be manipulated. Assume this person is already an enemy and focus your energy on cabining the damage s/he can do.

If you think s/he'll badmouth you, then beat her to the punch by making sure the people in question know about the inappropriate ask. Don't expose her in a complaining or gossipy fashion. Rather, ask one of your mutuals (preferably a gossipy one) for advice "in confidence" on the request s/he made of you, explaining that you're worried about angering her but aren't in the position to say yes. The info will get around soon enough and then if she starts badmouthing you people will know that she is just a vindictive a-hole mad that you didn't say yes to her lousy request.[/quote]

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