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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have sympathy for all the women here in sexless marriages.

Is it an ED issue for you? In other words, if they could longer have PIV and Viagra (doesn't work all the time and for everyone) fails to help, would you be okay on other forms of sex and intimacy.

The reason I ask this question is that I have noticed when I have sex with a woman and I don't ejaculate she feels as if either I didn't enjoy it or I am into her etc. I feel like for us men when it comes to sex women expect us to always be ready wrong erection, ejaculation etc...Or is it just a perception that's wrong? [/quote]

Yes! I would love for there to be intimacy. It doesn’t have to be PIV. I mean we have no intimacy now. Other forms of touch especially sensual. Touch are very loving intimate and connected. That’s the piece that’s missing. Yeah do I wanna be railed, sure do! Would I be happy just knowing my husband desired me and we could be close that would also be really nice.

I’ve asked him to use toys with me and sensual massage and he says he will, but it never happens. Ive tried to introduce bsdm. With him choosing roles. Nothing. I’d love oral it would be amazing. I’ve had boyfriends that had ED and that’s all we did. It was beautiful and I felt so loved/wanted. It’s the connection that’s missing .

Before it got bad, yeah I associated lack of erection with lack of desire. I was used to being responded to with great enthusiasm in the past.

And I spent years giving blowjobs and no reciprocal handies to him, hoping it’s some way he would get over this no pun intended hump (slump). Nothing worked to keep things consistently going and never initiation from him. Eventually I just rolled over and stopped asking. He’s become asexual. I have not.

So yeah I’d be into anything that signaled his interest. 
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Wow you are not asking much that's a really low bar to clear. You wanna be caressed, eaten out, f**d in all kind of positions that's basic sex. I am sorry.

Have you tried being more kinky? For example wearing a dress and no panties on and whispering in his ears about it, or lifting your dress to show him or asking him to feel your wet vagina.

I am not trying to be "fresh" but we are adults here and sex is healthy and amazing. And when you have a spouse sex is even more exciting because there is no limit to experimenting as long as both are comfortable [/quote]

Oh honey, of course I’ve tried all that. Multiple times. I’ve grabbed his junk and walked him around the house like a dog too…he loved it. We had two minutes of sex that fell apart after I stopped directly stimulating him. I made no big deal about it and he yawned in my face. It’s a him thing.

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It looks like you have tried everything. Your only options are:
accept the situation, divorce, or open up the marriage (he may be into cuckolding).[/quote]

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